December 7, 2007
Strings, Earrings and Charcoal Things
This afternoon, Barry and I took a trip to Ashland to see Zeb Lancaster, our Rolfer who wanted to try a new relationship coaching technique on us.
He apparently did that for 15 years before becoming a Rolfer, and has a new office with bigger treatment rooms, so he needed some “guinea pigs” to try out some exercises.
The main thing we did was to see how close to each other was “comfortable” while still maintaining our own space. But we actually preferred to be close together, touching each other in a sort of embrace, which can apparently potentially cause problems, just like being too distanced can.
If you’re “too close” to each other, then when one person gets upset or emotional, both end up getting rocked because they’re in the same boat.
When you can have some distance from each other — still remain connected, but be centered in your own space — then one can rock his or her own boat while the other remains steady and supportive.
It was a very interesting experience, because I never would have thought that.
So we used colored strings to map out on the floor where our own space was, as well as a part where the strings wound together… showing togetherness and individuality at the same time.
When you’re dealing with relationships, which are mirrors… especially when the mirror is as reflective as ours is sometimes… you can lose that individuality if you’re not careful.
