As I wrote to my Twitter followers today:
Happy Valentine’s Day friends – may you be with those you LOVE today, focusing on that powerful feeling that lets you achieve and overcome
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Today was the big 4-0 for Barry… and since I think the milestone birthdays that end in a “0″ are a big deal, I took him on a special surprise journey.
Our neighbors sat with Konan (the longest time he’s ever been away from us, and he was a perfect little angel the whole time!) and our adventure began.
Barry had no clue until we got there what was going to happen… I let him guess, but he kept thinking it was something else.
The truth? We went to Ashland to the Waterstone Spa, and had a nice lunch (the best salad and sandwich EVER!) followed by a two-person Japanese bath, side-by-side deep tissue massages, and a sauna together.
If you’ve never had the experience of side-by-side massages, or a private sauna, I highly recommend it!
And if you happen to be in Southern Oregon, you can’t go wrong with the Waterstone. Very friendly staff, good massage therapists, privacy, and no extra fee for the “Duet Room”.
What better way to turn 40?
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Barry had his first Father’s Day today… an amazing milestone in the journey of parenthood.
And I got a milestone too.
I got to appreciate how my favorite man has given the best of what he’s got (time, energy, love, and of course, genes!) to my favorite boy.
Konan is the most amazing thing to have happened to us, and more incredible than we ever could have imagined.
The fact that two people can come together and create a third that’s so special, so perfect, and so ready to learn, grow, develop, and experience everything they can from life is just mind-boggling.
Of course, millions of people have experienced this very thing before… but it doesn’t make it any less awe-inspiring for those of us who are going through it for the first time.
Konan turned 8 months old yesterday (this favorite picture of mine was taken a couple of months ago) so he’s already 2/3 of his way to becoming a year old.
A year full of firsts… and today was one of the most special.
Happy Father’s Day, Big Bear!
And to Konan (and the rest of us, too)…
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Today is Mother’s Day, the sweetest day of the year in many women’s lives.
But to me, this is my first Mother’s Day so it’s even sweeter than that!
Okay, last year I was pregnant, so some people wished me a Happy Mother’s Day anyhow… but this is the first one that I can hold my own child in my arms.
And I can look in his face, and see both myself and Barry there.
Isn’t it amazing how much life can change in the blink of an eye?
This day will definitely go down in history as a very special one for me.
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Barry was introduced to this beautiful short film, and I cried when I saw it. It’s beautifully written, and has a powerful, heart-warming message.
We also posted it on the LWL Worldwide blog, but I needed to include it here too because it’s a great way to end 2008:
I’ve seen my share of short films, having covered many film festivals in my reporter days. I interviewed tons (like, hundreds) of short film actors, directors, producers, writers, and fans. And none of their films held a candle to this one!
It won Best Short Film in the Sedona International Film Festival, but I’ll bet it could win more than that… if the film festival judges would allow some feel-good positive messaging rather than the doom-and-gloom artsiness that usually dominates the festivals.
Funny thing, on Canadian passport photos you’re not allowed to smile, so my picture is serious… but if this makes a few people lighten up, have some fun, get inspired, and validate another person’s existence, then it’s done its job!
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This weekend I lost a very special friend.
Mercury, who I considered to be my feline soulmate in many ways, was killed by a car right outside our house.
I didn’t want her to be an outdoor cat, even the part-time status she had, for that very reason. But Mercury had a free spirit and a mind of her own, and she demanded again and again to go outside after we moved to the new house.
We let her out to make her happy, first thinking we had the yard adequately blocked off so she would stay within our fences.
That turned out to be not the case, as she immediately figured out how to jump over it… but she adapted so well, and was so at peace when she was allowed outside, that we couldn’t say no — no matter how much I tried to.
It’s that age-old dilemma: do you try to protect what you love by keeping it close, possibly smothering it in the process… or do you let it be free, both to happily do what it loves, and to also possibly make mistakes?
Well, we also knew that with Konan on the way, it would never work to force Mercury to stay indoors. She would either demand more attention than we were able to give her with a new baby in the house, or be miserable, or both.
So we let her have her way.
And despite how it turned out, I know she appreciated it very much…
The due date was November 9, but I always had a feeling he’d come early… maybe even as early as October so he could have his own birth month (my birthday is November 18, and I was sure he wouldn’t want to share it).
I even made sure everyone knew he could come as early as October 19, since that’s when I’d be 37 weeks pregnant, and the baby would be considered full term.
But it still took us by surprise when, on October 19, I really did go into labor… or at least start the process.
Yup, it was a classic yet rare instance where the water broke before reaching the hospital, but it wasn’t a big gush like in the movies, and it didn’t trigger labor so they had to induce it.
And on Monday, October 20 at 5:30pm (almost 24 hours after checking into the hospital) our beautiful son Konan Brody Goss was born.
Here he is, arriving home from the hospital for the first time yesterday.
Yes, he was three weeks early (another rarity for first-time moms) but still a hefty and healthy 8 lbs, 3 oz.
Obviously this guy is meant to be a super-achiever, and not a procrastinator!
I am filled with wonder, intrigue and fascination over the journey ahead, both for him and for Barry and I, as first time parents.
What will his future hold? How can we ensure it’s the best it can be? And what will he do with the infinite possibilities that are now before him?
One thing’s definite, we’re going to make sure he follows his birthright to be a super manifestor.
His birthday is 10-20… and if 10-10 was perfect to get married, then 10-20 must be twice as good a day to be born. 
For someone so small, he sure carries and elicits a lot of love. And he looks a lot like his dad, which gives me even more to love because I now have two special guys.
In only a few days of life, he has completely changed our lives, and we’re sure he’ll change many more lives in the future.
After all, if he’s anything like Barry and I… he’ll have a similar purpose of changing lives for the better, one person at a time.
Welcome to the world, Konan!
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My soulmate Barry and I got married today on the perfect day… 10-10 (October 10).
That represents a “10″ rating for the wedding, AND a “10″ rating for the marriage. It doesn’t get any better than that!
It also happens to be Canadian Thanksgiving weekend, and that represents all that we have to be thankful for in our relationship together.
And it’s Columbus Day weekend in the US, so that represents our desire to explore. We explore life together, we explore metaphysical concepts together, we explore ways that people can improve their lives together.
And in a few weeks, we’ll be exploring parenthood together!
It was a pretty simple wedding, with about 10 guests — mostly family members and neighbors — in our own backyard.
But it was heartfelt, emotional, and very meaningful, and we found the perfect non-denominational minister who likes to explore and teach the same sorts of metaphysical concepts that we do!
She also let us customize the vows, the ring exchange, the readings and blessings, for a very special ceremony that included poems we wrote to each other.
All in all, it was definitely a perfect 10… and we couldn’t have picked a more perfect day.
By the way, it’s officially Heather Vale Goss now… but I’ll still answer to Heather Vale as well.
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It’s official…
Barry proposed to me today!
Yes, even though we’ve been talking about getting married for some time now… even though it already feels like we ARE married (and a lot of people assume we are)… I was holding out for a real, old-fashioned proposal.
I’ve never been proposed to before, and it’s an experience I wanted to enjoy.
Okay, that’s not entirely true. Marilyn Manson (yes, the goth-inspired singer) did propose to me once at a bar that I was bartending at, and he was hanging out at with a mutual buddy, one of the radio DJs from the local alternative music station. But his two different eyes kinda freaked me out, and besides, I was already married at the time, so… I had to turn him down gently.
And the reason I was previously married without ever being proposed to was that I had read an article in the paper about Sadie Hawkins Day (Feb. 29) one leap year. The tradition said that if a woman proposed to a man on Sadie Hawkins Day, he either had to say yes or buy her a red dress. I figured there was nothing to lose (red was my favorite color and I could have used a new dress!) so I did it — no fanfare, no forethought, just an off-the-cuff question — and the rest was history (except that it took another six and a half years to actually get married, but that’s a different story).
Anyhow, I didn’t want any repeating patterns in this relationship, so just “getting married” wasn’t in the cards. Turns out Barry’s a romantic, too, and wanted to do something special when he proposed, so he decided to wait for that opportune unique and memorable moment…
This weekend, Barry and I met my parents for a little adventure — the Northern California coastline, the Southern Oregon coastline, and the Redwood forests.
Yes, that one little pocket of the world contains sandy beaches, rocky shorelines, and awe-inspiring trees, all within a few miles of each other.
Here’s Barry with my parents by the California beach…
And Dad’s taking my picture as I take theirs!
You’d never know it was North instead of South… this is the type of beautiful beach that you could find and enjoy in nearly any warm climate area in the world.
If you blindfolded someone and brought them here, they’d probably never guess where they were!
Then we moved further North up the coastline, where it turns rockier (and windier! Wow!) but just as beautiful.
This is me above the point where the sand and rocks meet… like teeny rocks that have been formed from what the big rocks once were.
Millions of years of history can be seen in a place like this — and it’s amazing that we get to experience it.
I like to imagine it 100 years ago. Did it look the same?
What about 1,000 years ago?
How many people have stood, just like me, above the beach with the wind whipping all around them?
Things like that make me stop and contemplate the world we live in, and the way it has unfolded over time.
It also makes me enjoy the moment, even as I think fleetingly about other moments that have also been enjoyed in that very same spot.
After that we headed back south and went through the Redwood forests, on a small trail off the beaten path (literally — it’s just a dirt road), stopping every now and then to take a short hike into the huge trees.
This picture gives you some idea of the size of the giant Redwoods, as Barry walked behind the rest of us… but for some reason, none of the pictures we took really did them justice.
The awe-factor somehow seemed to go missing as soon as the 3-D world was captured on a 2-D photo.
This really makes me think about our significance (or rather, insignificance) in the vastness of the Universe.
It makes me appreciate everything we’ve created, everything we co-exist with, and everything that defines what we call home.
And of course, it makes me appreciate those I love that were there to experience it with me.
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