{"id":1784,"date":"2011-10-31T13:07:13","date_gmt":"2011-10-31T21:07:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/heathervale.com\/blog\/?p=1784"},"modified":"2023-04-17T16:11:59","modified_gmt":"2023-04-18T00:11:59","slug":"one-day-when-facades-are-ok","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heathervale.com\/blog\/2011\/10\/31\/one-day-when-facades-are-ok\/","title":{"rendered":"One Day When Facades Are OK"},"content":{"rendered":"<iframe src=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/plugins\/like.php?href=https:\/\/heathervale.com\/blog\/2011\/10\/31\/one-day-when-facades-are-ok\/&amp;layout=standard&amp;show_faces=1&amp;width=450&amp;action=like&amp;colorscheme=light&amp;font=\" scrolling=\"no\" frameborder=\"0\" style=\"border:none; overflow:hidden; width:450px; height:25px\"><\/iframe><iframe src=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/plugins\/like.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fheathervale.com%2Fblog%2F2011%2F10%2F31%2Fone-day-when-facades-are-ok%2F&amp;layout=standard&amp;show_faces=true&amp;width=450&amp;action=like&amp;colorscheme=light&amp;height=80\" scrolling=\"no\" frameborder=\"0\" style=\"border:none; overflow:hidden; width:450px; height:80px;\" allowTransparency=\"true\"><\/iframe><p><a href=\"http:\/\/heathervale.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/H-K-Halloween11-4943-mini1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-1801\" style=\"margin: 5px 10px;\" title=\"Heather and Konan Halloween 2011\" src=\"http:\/\/heathervale.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/H-K-Halloween11-4943-mini1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"316\" height=\"414\" srcset=\"https:\/\/heathervale.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/H-K-Halloween11-4943-mini1.jpg 452w, https:\/\/heathervale.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/H-K-Halloween11-4943-mini1-229x300.jpg 229w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 316px) 100vw, 316px\" \/><\/a>Halloween is the one day of the year when it&#8217;s OK to pretend to be somebody else.<\/p>\n<p>But these days, with the popularity of social media fueling the trend, it seems like more and more people would love to put up a facade on a day-to-day basis.<\/p>\n<p>Hey, I&#8217;ve been guilty of it too, to a somewhat calculated degree.<\/p>\n<p>As someone who started life painfully shy (and still often feel uncomfortable around strangers), I&#8217;ve always been a big proponent of the concept of &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/heathervale.com\/blog\/2010\/07\/26\/act-as-if-you-have-what-you-want\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">act as if&#8221; or &#8220;fake it till you make it<\/a>&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And in the public eye, I believe that&#8217;s fine. We all need some privacy, right?<\/p>\n<p>But hiding ourselves completely doesn&#8217;t work anymore.<\/p>\n<p><!--more-->I like how social media expert <a href=\"http:\/\/marismith.com\">Mari Smith<\/a> put it to me in an interview. She said we have Business, Personal and Private aspects to our lives; we should feel free to share the Business and Personal, but keep the Private to ourselves.<\/p>\n<p>Call it personal branding if you like; you choose the aspects you want to be known for, and focus on your strengths instead of your weaknesses.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s the same thing as not telling an acquaintance that a new outfit is unflattering. That&#8217;s not a lie, you&#8217;re just choosing not to blurt out the whole truth and nothin&#8217; but the truth.<\/p>\n<p>But with our closest relationships, obviously we need to be more authentic&#8230; more honest&#8230; and more expressive, which are things I&#8217;ve been working on tapping into in a deeper way lately.<\/p>\n<p>One concept that has inspired me is asking the jnana yoga question, &#8220;What is my truth?&#8221;<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;We can have no inner peace if we do not honor ourselves by speaking our truth and being our word,&#8221; explains Julia Tindall in <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0971589453\/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=successunwrap-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=217145&amp;creative=399373&amp;creativeASIN=0971589453\">20 Questions for Enlightened Living<\/a>. &#8220;So we feel what our truth is, speak it sensitively, ask for what we want, be our word, and honor our commitments.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>And if, once a year, your truth is that you want to be somebody completely different&#8230; today&#8217;s the day to do that.<\/p>\n<p>Then tomorrow, commit to being your word, honoring yourself, and celebrating YOU.<\/p>\n<p>Happy Halloween!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Keep Unwrapping the Mysteries of Life!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em> <\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"Heather Vale Goss\" src=\"http:\/\/heathervale.com\/images\/sigHVG_2.1_blue.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"205\" height=\"35\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Halloween is the one day of the year when it&#8217;s OK to pretend to be somebody else. 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